到跑道那里去接她，就她一个人等在那里，小脸红扑扑的。
路上她告诉由于去年十一月和指挥的冲突，现在还有余波，因为指挥已经把她放到第三把小提琴。
我“哦”了一身，问她，你在乎么？
她说，“我不在乎他的opinion.”
匆忙地烧饭吃饭，我们就去学校了。她们还要进行最后的排练，我们几个认识的家长在那里闲聊天。我被问，“你们为什麽不买大房子？你们只有一个孩子。”
我被问，“你们为什麽不买宝马或者奔驰，经济能力是有的呀。”
我被问，“你老公怎么不来？从来就没有看到你老公。”
我被问，“你们聪聪这次有没有独奏？”
我瞠目结舌，说不出话来。
他们的表演在最后一场。校长让家长们凑近去拍她们。还算合作。
音乐会结束后，我去音乐教室接她。她提着小提琴一路小跑，看到了我，也还是快走。我叫住她，可以感受到她的沮丧。她说着反话，说，“我真是高兴我没有独奏。”
我问，为什麽。
她说，因为我不用一遍又一遍地拉给那个指挥听。
回家的路上，我们并没有谈论此事。
后来我给她写了一封电子邮件：
Dear May,
I know it was hard for you last night even though you said you do not care about Jogonson's opinion. After the concert, you usually hang out with your friends for a while, and you did not do that yesterday. Instead, you stomped away, and did not stop your footsteps even when you saw me. So I can tell you are frustrated. I was gonna talk about it before you went to bed last night, but it was already too late and sleeping for you right now is very essential.
Believe it or not, I can totally understand your frustration. Being treated unfairly by the conduct and Being deprived of playing a solo in a school concert are a kind of pain. Not trying to say that you would like to show off, but you are really good at playing violin, and we both witness your progress: getting admitted by YOCJ, moving up to Violin I within a year, achieving No. 5 out of 10 Violin I in the latest seating audition. I am so proud of you. However, this does not mean that you should ignore school concert, or school orchestra class no matter how difficult the teacher is. It is pretty hard for you, actually for everybody, including me to be put into this situation. But I really hope that we all learn something out of this, so that we did not waste THE EXPERIENCE.
You won't be treated fairly all the time in your life, that is for sure. But if that happens, what should we do?
If you happen to have someone who is really mean in your life, and you cannot avoid him/her, say, your teacher, what will you do?
In fact, we have limited choices in our life, but within these choices, it is the attitude towards the problems (I remember you put that words on the cardboard?) that matters, right?
Here is something I would like to share it with you. It is not like, "May, you read it." I am reading it with you and I really love to share it with you and I hope you can share something with me later on during our ongoing life.
https://medium.com/i-dont-know-a-thing/the-complete-and-logical-guide-to-winning-at-your-own-life-in-19-super-difficult-steps-135a17b3c5c6
Reading those articles is easy and you will feel "Yeah, that's right." But digesting them and keeping changing yourself is the real way to live the life fully.
I love you, and the love goes everywhere you go.
Mom
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